Unbecoming the Good Girl
A workshop for women who struggle to say no and are done making themselves small
Sunday 26th July 2026
10am - 1.30pm
The Yoga Factory, Southend-on-sea
Early bird: £50
Full Price: £60
What do past workshop attendees say?
"I was really nervous initially about talking in front of strangers, but it was so supportive, We were all there for the same reason and it felt so freeing to be able to share and feel understood! Such a lovely group"
"I had so many lightbulb moments as I learnt why I have always put everyone else first and struggle to say no! Understanding myself better has changed so much"
“Learning tools to manage the guilt I always feel was so pivatol for me. I left feeling empowered and knowing I had strategies to do things differently”
This workshop is for you if...
You're the one who says yes even when every part of you means no/ the reliable one/ the easy one/ the peacekeeper/ the one who never makes a fuss.
And inside? You're exhausted.
You're tired of the guilt that follows you everywhere.
The guilt when you say yes and the guilt when you even think about saying no.
Tired of the lose-lose feeling.
Tired of making everyone else comfortable while quietly losing yourself.
Maybe you've even asked: "if I stopped putting everyone else first, what would I even want?" And the honest, terrifying answer is: I don't know.
Here's the thing. The 'Good Girl' isn't who you are. She's who you were taught to be.
Somewhere along the way, you were handed a rulebook.
One that says: keep everyone happy, don't rock the boat, put yourself last.
This workshop is about learning to live life by your own rules, putting down that old rulebook and finding out who you are without it.
In a warm, intimate space, we'll spend the morning getting underneath the pattern, understanding exactly why you keep saying yes when you mean no, and what it would take to start doing things differently.
You'll leave with real tools, real scripts, and a permission slip you wrote yourself to start showing up differently.
Expect real talk, genuine connection with other women who completely get it, and tools you'll actually use on Monday morning.
Picture this:
You're in a conversation and someone asks you to do something you
don't want to do.
And instead of that familiar sinking feeling: the panic, the guilt, the automatic
yes... you pause.
You feel something different.
Steadier.
Like you have a choice.
That's not a fantasy. That's what becomes possible when you start to understand
the pattern and have tools to deal with it differently.
The good girl's rulebook kept you safe for a long time.
It made sense once.
But you're here because some part of you knows you've outgrown it.
And that you're allowed to write something better.
This workshop is where that starts.
What can I expect?
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3.5 hours with other women who are done feeling tired and done with the guilt, but don't yet know how to make change.
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Understanding exactly why you keep saying yes when you mean no, and what it would take to start doing things differently.
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Real talk, genuine connection with other women who get it, and tools you'll actually use right away.
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You'll leave with real tools, real scripts, and a permission slip you wrote yourself.
What you'll leave with:
✦ A clear understanding of the pattern that's been keeping you stuck (finally, it will make sense!)
✦ Tools to handle guilt when it inevitably shows up and tries to pull you back
✦ A framework for moving forward,not someday, but this week
✦ Scripts for saying no that you can actually use in real life, in real situations
✦ A guided visualisation and meditation to help your brain start believing a different way is possible
✦ A workbook packed with exercises, reflection prompts and practical next steps to take home
A CBT and EMDR Therapist specialising in self-worth, people-pleasing, and helping women find their way back to themselves.
I created this workshop because I know how exhausting it is to be the woman who
holds everything together for everyone else and has somehow ended up last on her
own list.
I've sat with this pattern in the therapy room for years. I understand why it happens, where it comes from, and what it takes to start doing things differently.
It doesn't have to stay this way.
Imagine leaving with a real understanding of why you've been stuck.
Imagine having words for something you've always felt but never been able to name. Imagine walking out with a tool in your pocket for the next time someone asks too much of you.
That's what becomes possible when you start. And this workshop is where that starts.
Hi, I'm Alicia!
