Unbecoming the Good Girl
A workshop for women who struggle to say no and are ready to stop shrinking
Sunday 26th July 2026
10am - 1.30pm
The Yoga Factory, Southend-on-sea
Early bird: £50
Full Price: £60
You said yes again, even though you didn't want to do it.
You knew the moment it came out of your mouth.
That sinking feeling.
The quiet resentment.
The mental gymnastics trying to figure out how to get out of it, or worse, just accepting it and adding it to the pile.
Because here's the thing:
You're the reliable one. The easy one. The one who never makes a fuss.
You keep the peace, show up for everyone, and pride yourself on always being there,for your friends, your family, your colleagues.
But inside? You're exhausted.
You're tired of the guilt that follows you everywhere.
The guilt when you say yes and the guilt when you even think about saying no.
You're tired of the lose-lose feeling.
Tired of making everyone else comfortable while quietly losing yourself.
Maybe you've even asked yourself "if I stopped putting everyone else first, what would I even want?" And the honest, terrifying answer is: I don't know.
That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.
That's not you being weak or selfish or difficult.
That's what happens when you've spent years following a rulebook you never agreed to.
A rulebook that says: keep everyone happy, don't rock the boat, put yourself last.
A rulebook that was written for you before you were old enough to question it.
Picture this:
You're in a conversation and someone asks you to do something you
don't want to do. And instead of that familiar sinking feeling: the panic,
the guilt, the automatic yes... you pause.
You feel something different.
Steadier.
Like you have a choice.
That's not a fantasy.
That's what becomes possible when you start to understand the pattern.
You won't leave this workshop a completely different person, that's not what one morning can do, and anyone who tells you otherwise isn't being straight with you.
But you will leave with something you didn't have before.
Clarity.
Language.
A framework.
A first step that actually belongs to you.
The good girl's rulebook kept you safe for a long time.
It made sense once.
But you're here because some part of you knows you've outgrown it.
And that you're allowed to write something better.
This workshop is where that starts.
What can I expect?
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A 3.5 hour workshop for women who are done feeling tired and done with the guilt, but don't yet know how to make change.
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Understanding exactly why you keep saying yes when you mean no, and what it would take to start doing things differently.
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Real talk, genuine connection with other women who get it, and tools you'll actually use right away.
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You'll leave with real tools, real scripts, and a permission slip you wrote yourself.
What you'll leave with:
✦ A clear understanding of the pattern that's been keeping you stuck (finally, it will make sense!)
✦ Tools to handle guilt when it inevitably shows up and tries to pull you back
✦ A framework for moving forward,not someday, but this week
✦ Scripts for saying no that you can actually use in real life, in real situations
✦ A guided visualisation and meditation to help your brain start believing a different way is possible
✦ A workbook packed with exercises, reflection prompts and practical next steps to take home
A CBT and EMDR Therapist specialising in self-worth, people-pleasing, and helping women find their way back to themselves.
I created this workshop because I've sat with this pattern in the therapy room for years,and I've navigated my own version of it too.
The women I work with are capable, caring, and quietly running on empty. They don't need more advice. They need someone to help them see the pattern clearly, and then actually do something different.
This morning is for them. And if any of this sounds like you,it's for you too.
Hi, I'm Alicia!
