Unbecoming the Good Girl
A workshop for women who've spent so long putting everyone else first that they've lost touch with themselves.
Sunday 26th July 2026
10am - 1.30pm
The Yoga Factory, Southend-on-sea
Early bird: £50
Full Price: £60
The hardest part isn't that everyone expects so much from you.
It's that you've become so disconnected from your own needs that sometimes you don't even know who you are anymore.
This workshop won't change other people's expectations of you, but it will help you start hearing your own voice again.
What do past workshop attendees say?
"I was really nervous initially about talking in front of strangers, but it was so supportive, We were all there for the same reason and it felt so freeing to be able to share and feel understood! Such a lovely group"
"I had so many lightbulb moments as I learnt why I have always put everyone else first and struggle to say no! Understanding myself better has changed so much"
“Learning tools to manage the guilt I always feel was so pivatol for me. I left feeling empowered and knowing I had strategies to do things differently”
This workshop is for you if...
✨You're the one who says yes even when every part of you means no/ the reliable one/ the easy one/ the peacekeeper/ the one who never makes a fuss.
✨You're replying "of course!" to WhatsApp messages while quietly feeling resentful that they even asked.
✨Your calendar is full of things you agreed to and secretly don't want to do.
✨You're lying awake rehearsing how to tell someone no, then saying yes anyway.
And inside? You're exhausted.
✨You're tired of the guilt that follows you everywhere.
The guilt when you say yes and the guilt when you even think about saying no.
Tired of the lose-lose feeling.
✨ You're tired of making everyone else comfortable while quietly losing yourself.
✨Maybe you've even asked: "if I stopped putting everyone else first, what would I even want?"
And the honest, terrifying answer is: I don't know.
✨Perhaps part of you worries that if you stopped being the "good girl", people wouldn't like what they found.
Here's the thing:
The 'Good Girl' isn't who you are.
She's who you were taught to be.
Somewhere along the way, you were handed a rulebook.
One that says:
keep everyone happy, don't rock the boat, put yourself last.
And so somewhere along the way, being liked became more important than being you.
This workshop is about questioning the rules you've been living by and creating space for something different.
You'll leave with greater clarity, practical tools, and something many women have never had before: a deeper understanding of themselves.
In a warm, intimate space, we'll spend the morning getting underneath the pattern, understanding exactly why you keep saying yes when you mean no, and what it would take to start doing things differently.
Expect real talk, genuine connection with other women who completely get it, and tools you'll actually use on Monday morning.
Picture this:
You're in a conversation and someone asks you to do something you
don't want to do.
And instead of that familiar sinking feeling: the panic, the guilt, the automatic
yes... you pause.
You feel something different.
Steadier.
Like you have a choice.
The good girl's rulebook kept you safe for a long time.
It made sense once.
But you're here because some part of you knows you've outgrown it.
And that you're allowed to write something better.
This workshop is where that starts.
What you'll leave with:
✦ A clear understanding of the pattern that's been keeping you stuck (finally, it will make sense!)
✦ Understanding of why guilt shows up and how to respond differently when it does.
✦ Knowing what has been getting in the way of your boundaries and what your next step looks like.
✦ Starting to recognise your own needs alongside everyone else's.
✦ Scripts for saying no that you can actually use in real life, in real situations
✦ A framework for moving forward, not someday, but this week
✦ A guided visualisation and meditation to help your brain start believing a different way is possible
✦ A workbook packed with exercises, reflection prompts and practical next steps to take home
A CBT and EMDR Therapist specialising in self-worth, people-pleasing, and helping women find their way back to themselves.
I created this workshop because I know how exhausting it is to be the woman who
holds everything together for everyone else and has somehow ended up last on her
own list.
I've sat with this pattern in the therapy room for years. I understand why it happens, where it comes from, and what it takes to start doing things differently.
It doesn't have to stay this way.
Imagine leaving with a real understanding of why you've been stuck.
Imagine having words for something you've always felt but never been able to name. Imagine walking out with a tool in your pocket for the next time someone asks too much of you.
That's what becomes possible when you start. And this workshop is where that starts.
Hi, I'm Alicia!
